Confronting the lies

I obtained a copy of the restraing order statements and was surprised that my own son claimed I pushed Angela the night I caught Angela and Mya in bed together. This really hurt me to know that I didn't and my son saying I did. Now I know how deep the manipulation has gone. She stated that I was on a unknown medication which in fact I was on weightloss medication which was prescribed by a doctor. In her statements she described me as a monster. I became very upset and spoke to my friend Eddie about it and he said " you know it's not true. My middle daughter came over to Eddie's house the next afternoon and I wasn't home but Eddie's daughter was and showed my daughter the statements and she became very upset My daughter called her mom and questioned all the lies that she put down about me. Angela knew she was in real hot water. my daughter informed my other children and there was a real problem at the house that evening. Angela called me and asked me why I showed her the statements and I replied I didn't it was on the dining room table with the rest of my paperwork. If u are upset maybe you should have thought about that when you lied to get me arrested and the lies on the restraining order packet. In the same conversation she said she was not going to attend the hearing so it will just be dismissed. I told her I don't care if she shows or doesn't show there is no evidence to prove any act was committed. Angela in her own statement says she doesn't even know if she was pushed. That's amazing for a person who never forgets anything. I can't trust a word that spews out of her mouth so I'm preparing a statement for the hearing and bringing along the letter which states she doesn't even know if she was pushed and she just wanted me out of the house. What amazed me is that all my children offered to go to court with me and testify in my behalf. I explained to my son that I don't blame him, I blame his mom for manipulating him to tell a lie. I will always love him. That will never change. r.

Not afraid to say sorry

In my 20 year marriage I made my mistakes but they were with money and being somewhat emotionally unavailable at times depending on the situation. There is one question I can answer with confidence that I have never cheated on my wife. Angela could never say that because the 1st time she cheated was while I was in the military stationed in El Paso, TX. Angela was with a guy then but I guess that wasn't enough so she tried the lesbian route and I guess it worked. She was never really into anything fun. She was like her dad who is very stern and have not much of a personality. It is all about the money and hold things over your head and never saying "SORRY". She never said that word because for some reason she thinks she's better than everyone else. I took responsibility for my actions and accepted the consequences that come with those actions. Angela still denies her affair after my 18 y/o daughter saw them kissing and now that Mya has moved into my house 2 days after I was arrested and they are sleeping in the same bed now. Mya's appearance is like having a 5' tall pear shaped mexican lesbian who's ass is as wide as the door opening to the house. That may be a bitter comment but that is what Angela left me for. The funny thing Mya work for a urologist office and works with penises all day. My kids just go with the flow and try not to spent to much time at home to witness the type of behavior.

The Right Path

I have 3 children with my ex-wife Angela and they are great kids. I have 2 daughters and my son. I have told my daughters as they were growing up they need to go to college and have their own life before considering marriage because they don't need a man to support them. If something does happen they have the ability to support themselves and not rely on a man to support them. I also tried to show my son how to treat a woman with care, respect and to never put your hands on a female in anger. I stress to all my kinds they need to get their education and obtain what they would consider in their mind "SUCCESS". I will support them in any path they choose to go as far it is legal. I told my children I didn't raise criminals and if you are arrested don't call me to bail you out. I don't know if I can really do that but they believe I'm serious about that. It is better to walk away than to resort to that kind of behavior. After my experience with the lies that put me in jail for domestic violence is I'm doing just fine and just like Hulk Hogan and OJ, I get it. I would never harm my ex because that would hurt my children and put me in jail for the rest of my life and that is not something to look forward to. I still getting over it but it's gotten alot easier. I want the best for my children but they are the ones who have to do the hard work, it never hurt anyone and I'll be right behind them cheering them on or if need be push alittle bit.

Restraining order and Fiscally Irresponsibility

Angela contacted me thru the mail to let me know the divorce settlement is still intact. Due to the drama my 15 y/o son doesn't want to see me and that is fine, his decision. I'll wait until his feeling are not clouded and manipulated by his mother. He will soon see with clear eyes what things really are and who caused his family to breakup. I was arrested just because Angela wanted me out of the house so Mya can move in so they can be together which she stated in the letter she mailed to me. She also stated if I stay away from the house and the kids she will not show up at the restraining order hearing. I told her I don't care if she goes or not but I will see my kids. I told her I don't care what she does anymore. Angela doesn't want the kids to know what truly caused the family to breakup. Angela told me the reason for the divorce is because I was fiscally irresponsible. I didn't pay the bills on time. That maybe correct but Let me give an example that my son came to me that he needed new sneakers so I told him let me see his old shoes and yes he needed new sneakers so we went to the store and I bought him what he needed. Angela got upset cause the Cable bills was due and I told her my son needed shoes and that the cable bill can wait. It will be paid I told her but Angela went crazy cause she wants everything paid on time regardless of what the family needs. I told her as long as the important things are paid that is all I care about. If that is my worst trait then I'll accept that.

The Day After

I went to work the next day and saw a co-worker who works in the control center and looked at me and I asked him if he knew what happened. He said yes and it was ok because I complied with regulations about notifing them of the arrest from the jail. That day was difficult because I had meetings with managers and supervisors. I had to right statements of what transpired that evening of the arrest. I had to give them copies of the arrest report and notify them of any court dates. I jumped thru alot of hoops to keep my job. I left work and stopped by daughters boyfriend house where she was and when I arrived she was crying and said she was sorry but she had nothing to be sorry it was all her mothers fault. I then called the Sheriff's Office to set a time to get what I need for the time being. As I was getting my uniforms for work my son began to get upset about the whole situation and the Deputy told him to calm down. The Deputy asked me what happened here the other night and I showed him the arrest reports and witness statements. The Deputy told me "Just be happy your out of that situation"and "You didn't kill them" and I replied "That would have made things alot worse". I said to him "I just want to be done with it". The next day I was served with a subpoena to report to court for a restraining order hearing. Since the arrest I've been staying at Eddie's apartment He has been a real friend and when I get back on my feet I've got to do something nice for him for allowing me to stay with him and his family.

While in Jail

I was placed under arrest and transported to the county jail in Land o Lakes. While in Jail I meet some Deputies that I knew when I was deputy. They knew what I do for living and didn't put me in general population. They gave me some freedoms to the dismay of the other inmates. Actually they forgot I was there and the judge had left for the day when they asked me if I had seen the judge and I said "NO". They Said "OH SHIT". They went and called the judge on the phone and called him back to sign for my release. My job and background worked for me and the weak charge helped. All the deputies read the arrest complaint and said they would not have arrested me but the Deputy who did was on the job only 6 months. So I was released about 9 pm on wednesday 26, 2007 but had no way to get back to the house to get my van and find a place to live. I remembered my friend Eddie Torres and called information for his # cause I didn't have my phone listing with me. I called but he didn't answer. I then walked about 3-4 miles to the corner store at SR 52 and US 41. I again called Eddie and he answered the phone this time and told him what happened he was stunned but later said he had a bad feeling about Mya. Eddie and I went back to the house to pickup my van. As Eddie went to the house to drive the van to where I was waiting. My youngest daughter who 17 years old was looking for me but I didn't stop to talk cause I couldn't be at the house with a no contact order in effect due to the arrest.

The End Finally Comes

On Tuesday July 24, 2007, I notified Angela that I would be going to the Seminole HardRock Casino on Wednesday 25, 2007 with some friends and I would gone for the evening. After all that has happened I was still courteous to my plans with her. I went to the Casino but all the while in the back of my mind thinking if Angela has Mya to the house around my children, engaging in that deviant behavior. Well I returned home around 1:30 am on the 26th of July and only saw Angela car in the driveway and was happy but that was short lived when I looked in the car and found a carseat for Mya's Son. I became upset and entered the house to find my son attempting to block my way. I told him to get out of my way and entered the bedroom to find them together. All hell broke out and I was yelling for the Lesbians Cunts to get out of my house. Angela reached for my neck and I pushed her arms away from me. Angela told me to leave the house cause I was not supposed to be here. I replied this is my house and I could come and go as I pleased. She called the Pasco County Sheriff's Office and with their wisdom they placed me under arrest for domestic violence.

What Angela didn't know and she does now.

After Finding out my wife Angela was having a Gay affair, I knew what I had to do. This was to protect myself from further deception. I told Angela that "I don't care what to do or who you do it with just don't bring it home to where our kids are." To me this seems reasonable but that is not what Angela did. Every opportunity she had while I was at work she would bring Mya home and spend time together while Mya kids was watching tv in the livingroom. I know this because after the divorce my daughter told me what was happening as I went to work on the weekends. Well, I can let whomever reads this to know what Angela has lost. I was saving for a real wedding and a honeymoon which we never had back in Dec 1987. I saved over $3000 in 4 years. I did this because it was to be a surprize for Angela. She used to ask me "If I wanted to marry her when we got married" and answering truthfully "I said NO". Let me explain the answer. Marrying her was never a question but the timing was wrong in my opinion. We were not mature enough or financially able to marry. Angela wanted to marry after I had just moved down from Long Island, New York. She wanted out of her parents house but It would make her happy so I went along with it. I know, it was my decision.

The Deception of a Married Woman

A little background story. In the bible it says "feed the hungry, cloth the naked, house the homeless". This was and still is my belief on life. So lets get to it. I was married for 20 years when I got divorced. My ex-wife (Angela) decided to start having a gay affair with Mya Rohrer whom I helped because she claimed to be homeless. The story I was given was Mya was homeless and with a young boy who was conceived from a rape. I let Mya stay at my house so she and her boy would have a safe and stable place to go during the weekend cause she said she lived at a shelter for battered woman. This went on for 2 years. Then came the day when I found out that my wife Angela and Mya were having an affair. I called out from work on April 17, 2007 it was Sunday, I walked out of my bedroom to witness the both of them joined a kiss while Mya's son was sitting next to them watching tv. I called Angela into the bedroom and called her out on that and she denied it happening. I then tossed out Mya from my house and told her not to return. This was a time of major stress because she wanted me out of the house and I wanted to try to save my marriage but after some major conversations and arguements realized there was nothing to save. So I began the process of preparing to leave but only when I could lesson the impact on my three children.