Great friends and Family Support

I can truly say that 2008 was a tough but great year. It started off with difficult issues being resolved but if not for the advice and support from my friends and family, I don't know what I would have done. I probably would have gone crazy and done something horrible but for the great friends and family I have, that was not necessary to do. Thru friendships and talking about issues, I have come to realize that all that happened last year, it had a reason. I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have advice to all Men who have gone or will go thru similar issues as I to never back done, never give up and fight till the last drop of blood , sweat and tears. If it were not for friends such as Jason and Eddie's advice and support who were instrumental in my identifying that what I was going thru was for a reason, I would have cracked. Cause after 22 years together sharing birthdays, holiday, family events all the exes want is the money you have besides Child Support and to make sure you as miserable in your life as they are in theirs, so to get back at them by living your life to the fullest and because of that, they will hate you. They will see what they have missed out on. Most woman not all believe that after they see that we are moving on, they want what we have and will do everything to get it. They want us to be as miserable as they are. My EX came over one night and confessed to me that she is unhappy in her situation but she needs the girlfriend to help with the expenses with the house. That the kids are driving her crazy, she has no friends or life to speak of and she complains that I get to come and go as I please and I replied "That is the beauty of Divorce". I told her I gave her what she asked for and now your regretting it, it's to late to go back. I've established myself again and I'm enjoying myself. She said "If I get her to leave will you come home" and I said "NO" because I can't trust what you say or do. That is gone and will never come back. At that point I said "I guess the grass is not greener on the other side". She replied " You win". I said "it's not about winning or losing it's about what is best for the kids". I think me being emotionally and financially stable is the best thing that can happen for my kids cause then I can help them achieve there goals whatever they may be. Pay your Child Support and do what is right by you. Don't do anything more or less than what the laws allows you to do. Stick to your agreements and don't make promises you can't or won't keep. Save all corresponses between you and the Ex cause it may help you in court hearings as it did for me. Keep a file on everything that has to do with the kids and the Ex cause it will only help you in the end. For those that don't have a lawyer there are services out there to help you prepare the legal paperwork to get things rolling in the proper direction. It's not very expensive compared to a minimum of $1500 for a lawyer to do the paperwork verses with my cost of $300.00. The lawyer fees doesn't include going to the hearing and that cost approximately $100 to $200 an hour. If you are doing the right thing and are articulate in your speech and reasoning, you'll do fine. I said to Exes lawyer "That the only difference between you and me is that you have a piece of paper that says you went to law school but the knowledge in your head, I can get thru research on the Internet". So don't be intimidated by lawyers because they are liable for their wrong doings and they don't want to be tied to something unethical or illegal. So drive on brothers and fight the good fight.